Manolo the Columnist

Manolo says, the Manolo’s column in the Express of the Washington Post it is now available for the downloading. This week the Manolo gives the sensible advice to the tall girls.

Dear Manolo,

What’s a tall girl who wishes to be super fantastic to do so as to not make her shorter boyfriend feel insecure?

Helena

Manolo says, it is the experience of the Manolo that usually, the problem it is not with the mens who are shorter than their girlfriends, but with the tall girls who wish to have the boyfriends who are of the commesurate height.

Trust the Manolo if the man who is shorter likes you, he does not mind the difference of the height. You are worth the climb.

Yet now, because your man is short, you now wear only the flats. Then you see the beautiful heels you must have, and the next thing you are resenting the tiny little Tom Cruise-like man because you think he will not let you wear the high heels, when in the fact, he has done nothing of the sort, in the fact he likes it that you are tall. You have concocted the scenario of insecurity in your head.

Do not let this happen to you. The man he will like you for who you are, or he will not.

In the spirit of this, the Manolo he recommends to you the Milagro from the Beverly Feldman, so that you may tower over him with style.

Milagro by Beverly Feldman    Manolo Likes!  Click!

24 Responses to “Manolo the Columnist”

  1. Neptune January 16, 2006 at 12:44 am #

    Those Milagro shoes are truly super fantastic! As a 5’11” woman who had a shorter boyfriend for many years, I totally understand the issue here, but I agree with the Manolo, I eventually just gave up and wore heels, but I try to keep them under 3 inches. Everyone could tell he was shorter anyways, why hide it? (The same holds for all of my shorter friends). It took a few years, but now I know the best thing I can do to look great is stand up straight and wear at least a little heel. I particularly like kitten heels, they’re usually a bit shorter but still elegant and not chunky-looking. I also recommend avoiding very short skirts with heels if you have long legs (to keep it classy!), and always checking how much material is on the inside of pant hems when shopping so that you can have them lengthened (esp. crucial if wearing with heels).

  2. Gomez Addams January 16, 2006 at 8:02 am #

    The Manolo is correct on this height thing, at least judging from my sample set of one (me).

    The mens do not care if the lady is taller. Mrs Addams and I are the same heights of the 5′ 10″, so when she has on the heels she towers over me.

    But she is endlessly hot in heels (as most ladies are) so it is a big win for the Gomez, as she is both happy and superfantastic. One must be happy to be superfantastic, no?

    PS: The Gomez enjoys discussing himself in the third person.

  3. Michelle January 16, 2006 at 9:09 am #

    The Manolo, today he speaks truly the words of the wisdom.

  4. VeddyVeddyBadAng January 16, 2006 at 10:36 am #

    Another bonus: when a tall woman wears heels, doesn’t she start to resemble a supermodel? The couple can look at old photos of Leonardo and Giselle together for proof that this height combination can look very glamorous.

  5. Fausta January 16, 2006 at 10:56 am #

    The Manolo, he’s correct in every sense.

    But then, the Fausta (5’10”), she married the Husband, who is 6’4″. And superfantastic, too.

  6. ron January 16, 2006 at 11:30 am #

    Manolo speaks the truth. The only guys I’ve seen with taller girls had a more confident look if anything. It’s sort of like an acknowledgement that you are so deadly that your height is totally irrelevant to the drop dead gorgeous Tricia Helfer look alike on your arm. In any case, it makes him look better, not worse.

    -ron

  7. Susanna January 16, 2006 at 12:28 pm #

    El Rey Manolo de los Zapatos is right again.

    At 5’10” tall, I have never, ever dated shorter or same-height men. And it was not because I didn’t get asked by them. It was because *I* was the one who was uncomfortable with it. Being the tallest girl in the junior high dance and the cotillion was one of those horrors from which I never recovered.

    When I met the husband, I was quite pleased with his height of 6’1″, and have been comfortable in 3″ heels with him, since he ends up around 6’2″ with shoes on.

    So, you are correct… it is the tall women who have the issues, not the shorter men!

  8. Charlotte Allen January 16, 2006 at 12:33 pm #

    Oh, you are so right, Manolo! I’m 5’10” and I’ve had boyfriends (way back in the Stone Age when I was single) who were as short as 5’6″. They actually loved the height difference. My husband is exactly 6’0″, but since I love high heels, I tower over him much of the time anyway. Tall girls who wear flats all the time make a horrible mistake; they look hunched-over and ashamed of their bodies–and flats can actually make them look out of proportion. After all, all tall girls are blessed with long legs, so why shouldn’t we wear shoes that show off one of our proudest attributes?

  9. Rita January 16, 2006 at 3:05 pm #

    Manolo, you are once again completely and absolutely correct. I am 6’1″ and my super fantastic husband is 5’6″. Obviously I tower over him whatever size heel I am wearing so I wear shoes that are fantastic no matter how tall they make me!

  10. Elvira January 16, 2006 at 3:07 pm #

    Like the Neptune, I have had the shorter boyfriend for many years. I am 5’10”. However, it was from a taller boyfriend that I learned to ignore the height of the heels. This taller boyfriend correctly pointed out that at my height, I would be impossible to ignore anyway, so there was no point in trying to blend in. Granted, this fact removes several career options, such as spy or private investigator, but it has informed my fashion choices ever since. If my height draws attention to me, I should give everyone something to look at.

  11. Ryno January 16, 2006 at 3:18 pm #

    I don’t find tall girls intimidating. I think they are very attractive. At 5′-11″ I don’t meet many who are as tall as me or taller, but when I do I am always appreciative. Especially if they have good posture! And if they are athletic too, they are just about irresistable. I do resist, because I am married, but hoo boy…

    And, I’m typical. I don’t know of any men who find taller women intimidating, anywhere. This seems to be a pervasive myth at best, or a projection of inferior thinking onto others at worst.

    OK, there will always be a few short guys who actually have short guy syndrome, and I have met them, but they seem to have it in for everybody regardless of gender.

  12. candice January 16, 2006 at 11:59 pm #

    Well, I have actually had a man ask me to only wear flats for him. He was the same height as I am (5’6″), and that did not last long. I wear some lower-heeled shoes (have a pair of bright red loafers I live in when wearing jeans), but no heels? That will not do.

  13. Danette February 25, 2006 at 12:16 pm #

    Manolo:: I agree height shouldn’t stop a taller woman from dating a shorter man. I am a lawyer and frequently enjoy wearing heels, including Manolos, at work and socially. I am significantly taller than my husband who is a freelance writer and cheerfully remains at home with our children, 5 and 3. He has seldom expressed frustration with my height advantage or position as breadwinner. Thankfully, the days of having to “look up to your man” are past !

  14. jheri May 10, 2006 at 2:27 pm #

    I’m 6’2″ and have a hard time not scaring guys off – especially when I wear my 4″ heels (which are as tall as I’m willing to go). The guy I’m with now is only 5’10”, so I have real height on him even when I’m barefoot, but he loves my height and we certainly get attention in public.

  15. Sandy June 27, 2006 at 9:44 am #

    I wear my flats when I’m with my boyfriend and my heels at work. In a man’s world, it helps to look down on some of these guys! (I am 6′ in my stocking feet). Since I wear a size 12 shoe, I can’t find shoes everywhere, but I have found a great selection of all heel heights in my size at this shop called Dreamshoes.

  16. carla November 17, 2006 at 10:24 pm #

    I cant wear more than three inches, because my boyfriend is small… so i understand you Manolo.

  17. someone_123 January 10, 2007 at 1:44 am #

    well… I am 5′ 10″ guy… and trust me i would love to date with a girl taller then me… I would loved to be under her arms….

  18. Marc January 25, 2007 at 7:38 pm #

    I agree completely. I’ve never had a relationship with a taller woman, but I wouldn’t have a problem with it. And I’d certainly encourage her to wear whatever she wants on her feet! The sexier the better, and to me that excludes flats…..

  19. Linda February 20, 2007 at 10:10 pm #

    I am 5ft 10.5″ and am tired of being told I am too tall to wear high heels. I love them but have been told all my life by strangers I shouldn’t wear them.

  20. sarah March 31, 2007 at 11:53 am #

    I am 5.11″ and absolutley adore high heels, but own zero pairs! Although they look good and make me feel sexy, they also make me feel very self concious and instantly noticable as one of the tallest people in the bar. Being blonde and quite blessed in the chest department means on the occasions i have worn heels i have recieved very hurtful comments and bitching from other girls and often ended up going home, so now i just dont bother!!
    My partner of 4 years doesnt like me to wear heels either, hes not short, he is exactly the same height, but hates it when im taller than him and it does make me feel uncomfortable towering above him, and the others in our group of friends.
    I wish i was a couple of inches shorter or had the confidence to wear heels and stand out all amazonian like but fraid not, its jeans and flats all the way for me!!!

  21. Melinda January 3, 2008 at 2:21 pm #

    I am 5 ft 10 1/2 and l used to be so self conscious about my height, because society seems to always want to point out things when comments should be kept to themselves, most short people are insecure when they see a tall person so most feel they need to put tall people down to make themselves feel better. l love fashion and l do wear high heels going all the way up to 3.75 iinches l feel so incrediably sexy and confident. My shoe sizes range from a 9, 9 1/2, or a 10. My thing is God made me this way and l am going to hold my head up and flunt my height with all the confidence in the world. If the models do why shouldn’t I……

  22. Toyb January 26, 2008 at 11:32 am #

    Sometimes when a women towers over a man in heels it sometimes feels really nicee.

  23. Tony March 28, 2010 at 5:56 pm #

    Im just under 5ft and my girfriend is 5’11.

    My girlfriend constantly wears high heels round me, very high ones in fact, but it don’t bother me that much. It sucks that I cant reach to kiss her though. But other guys should just learn to deal with it.

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