Manolo says, here is the Manolo’s latest column for the Express of the Washington Post.

Dear Manolo,

I’m going to my mother-in-law’s for Christmas, and I know that I’ll be receiving the gift of clothing I don’t want. Last year’s present was a holiday sweater with snowmen and reindeer. As a reward for my good and uncomplaining behavior I plan on giving myself something special later. What would you suggest?

Anita

Manolo says, this is one of the eternal questions, how to deal with unwanted and unattractive gifts from those we love and/or must tolerate?

Oh, how many times has the Manolo heard stories of gifts gone awry, of presents that can only be purchased at the Quick Stop late on the afternoon of December 24th, such as the loganberry scented candles in toadstool-shaped holders, and the toxic yellow hat and scarf sets, and the Britney-Spears-themed perfumes which smell of wild musk and cantaloupe rind.

One must accept these offerings in the spirit of love and/or desperation in which they were given, with the graciousness and good humor that honors this season of joy.

Of the course, there is nothing preventing you from going out later and getting yourself exactly what you really wanted, and pretending it is from your beloved, such as these beautiful sandals, the Hardcandy from Stuart Weitzman.