The Big Question

Manolo says, over at the Manolo for the Big Girl, Ms. Plumcake asks,

What do we think of the tradition of the fiancé asking Big Daddy’s permission before popping the question? Is it a sweet gesture or patronizing insult?

One Response to “The Big Question”

  1. Nadia October 30, 2008 at 3:08 pm #

    I think, if the relationship itself is old-fashioned (where the male has done the courting and paying for everything etc.) it might be acceptable… BUT I believe that the modern woman is responsible for being an equal in the relationship, including making her own decisions about her potential spouse and communicating her intentions with her family. In this case, I don’t believe a male should ask permission, per se, but there’s nothing wrong with discussing the situation with her family or friends to gain their opinions.