Manolo the Columnist
Manolo says, here is the Manolo’s latest column for the Express of the Washington Post.
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Dear Manolo,My husband tells me that we must attend an important business dinner later this month. My problem is that I’m seven months pregnant, my feet have swollen beyond all measure, and I’ve developed “canklesâ€. I’m desperate. Please help.
Trudy
Manolo says, the Manolo can only imagine how terrible it must be to be the pregnant woman suffering through the concentrated misery that is the Washington August; the heat, the humidity, the knowledge that the congress peoples will eventually return from their summer vacations. Ayyyyyy!
Worse, the Manolo has noticed that many well-intentioned people now mistakenly believe that the proper way to greet the pregnant lady is with the words “My God, you’ve gotten as big as the house!â€
Such rude people should be gently chided and corrected, perhaps with the speeding Metro bus.
And so the Manolo, sympathizes with his pregnant lady friends, and devoutly wishes that he were rich enough to hire air-conditioned sedan chairs for all of them, so that they might be transported from place to place in style.
Look here is the Slipper by Stuart Weitzman, the simple, elegant point-toed flat, the shoe which will be comfortable without calling undue attention to your temporary problem areas.
Comments
Phyllis 17 years ago
Manolo, your concern, as always is endearing and the shoes as always are perfect. I’d like to also gently remind your readers to always offer a pregnant woman a seat on public transportation (and also seniors and disabled persons.)
jj 17 years ago
I was going to chide The Manolo for recommending such a narrow shoe for the pregnant ladies… but happily, it comes in a wider width!
Emma B 17 years ago
I doubt ordering the W size is going to be of much help to a pregnant woman with swollen feet. A width step is usually no more than half an inch or so, and swollen feet can be full inches larger. By the end of my pregnancy, I could barely jam my feet into flip-flops, let alone an actual shoe with sides.
Perhaps the Manolo could recommend a super-fantastic dressy slide or mule instead.
deja pseu 17 years ago
The Deja would also like to suggest than when in the presence of the lovely, glowing pregnant lady, that one should not feel free to rub her belly unless expressly invited to do so. ;-)
uberangie 17 years ago
great post, manolo. you can erase this post, if you feel it is wildly inappropriate, but when i was five months pregnant (my daughter is now four months old), i went into nine west to buy some flats for work. my shoe size grew at least a size. anyway, the clerk asked me if i needed help, and i said, “well, yes. i am five months pregnant, and work in a professional corporate environment. my feet grew a size or two, so i need some comfortable flats or low shoes to get me through the next five months.” she looked me up and down and snottily said, “we don’t have anything here for you. try easy spirit.” i admitted was dressed down, but not that down. at that point, i think i looked heavy, not exactly pregnant yet. i was willing to drop hundreds of dollars on shoes that fit. life was very uncomfortable for me. i walked out, frustrated. i wrote letters to the store manager, the head of the company…noone answered my letter. ah, well. there’s some bad publicity for you.
Noga 17 years ago
I always found it very strange that all too often the salesgirls who work for very posh brand names take on a certain snobbish attitude towards customers whom they consider… I don’t know what, giving, by the way, the establishment they work for a very bad name for service.
That is why I was so delighted, when I visited Seattle and happened to go into Nordstrom, to find the assistants very friendly, helpful and sympathetic to my money concerns, considering the prices at that store gave me a headache just to look at them. And I ended up buying some expensive stuff I didn’t know I needed until then. (It was a good investment, btw)
Sometimes, though, we make the mistake of misjudging the attitude: What we perceive as rude may be just an expression of accumulated fatigue which is sometimes exacerbated by shop assistants having to deal with rude customers.
Joan 17 years ago
Such rude people should be gently chided and corrected, perhaps with the speeding Metro bus.
Classic, and so adaptable! I’m adding this one to my arsenal.
My sympathies to the swollen-footed mothers-to-be everywhere. My youngest is 6 but I well remember those days. I still sigh over the shoes I had to give up because, post-pregnancy, my feet would never fit into them, ever again. (sigh)
Flats are the way to go, though — mules became too treacherous in the later months.
Judith in Umbria 17 years ago
Some here need to learn the stare of death. There is a makeup counter for MAC in a Florence department store I am dying to go to, because they have the reputation of being incredibly snobbish. I am so longing to give them the “you are a shop assistant and I am a client in that shop” stare. Trouble is I don’t need any cosmetics for the mo’.
I’m nice to everybody until they pull out the snobbery or rudeness. A twenty year old man tried to cut in front of me at a buffet at a wedding last weekend. Stare of death. He backed off very slowly.
And I like the shoes.
Leah 17 years ago
My mom always had at least three pairs of what she called her “pregnancy shoes” which were the same flats in different colors. They were probably some of the more expensive pieces in her maternity wardrobe, but by investing in quality shoes, she got a more comfortable sole, was able to find them in a comfortable size (very different from her non-pregnant shoe size) and (most importantly) enjoyed the undeniable extra give that more expensive, well-made shoes in a fine soft leather can have.
Which all sort of reminds me of the pretty ballet flats recently featured on Manolo for the Big Girl.
Cat 17 years ago
May I also suggest for the pregnant feets:
http://www.bandolino.com/s?namespace=catalog&origin=viewall_category.jsp&event=p.shoe&pid=14923&cid=109001
I am not pregnant but do have foot problems that usually prevent me from wearing any sort of fully-enclosed shoe, as it is just too painful to have them pressing on my feets. However, I bought these yesterday and they don’t hurt my feet at all. They are comfortable, and roomy enough that they don’t press on the sore spots, yet not so roomy that they feel or appear loose. Also, they are very cute.
Style Spy 17 years ago
I have those very shoes and I can vouch that they are very comfy and look wonderful on. Good call, Manolo!
Kimberly 17 years ago
Let me be the second to say that Nordstrom is indeed the store to visit if you want to be treated nicely, even if you are not dropping big money. They waited on me hand and foot in the Chicago store, and all I ended up buying was some Spanx and a scarf. Another friend of mine who is a size 14 petite went in there looking for slacks and they not only found her what she needed but had them altered for her. Amazing.
La BellaDonna 17 years ago
Hola to the Uberangie! La BellaDonna is aghast, and full of the sympathies for your undeserved trials at the hands of the minion of the Nine of the West.
La BellaDonna is, moreover, truly puzzled at such behaviour. The Nine of the West, while it has the teetery-tottery shoes for the unbalanced youth, has many of the flats and low-heeled shoes that would be most appropriate for a woman facing the challenges of the Uberangie. Should the Uberangie find herself in a similar fix in the future, La BellaDonna would recommend the helpful folks at Aldo Shoes, or even the Aerosoles.
La BellaDonna is sorry to say that the Uberangie herself may have highlighted the reason for the unprofessional treatment meted out to her:
at that point, i think i looked heavy, not exactly pregnant yet.
La BellaDonna fears that the Uberangie was possibly being punished by the Nine West acolyte for the unforgiveable sin of “heaviness.” There are many people who have received similar treatment for that “sin,” regardless of the hundreds of the dollars in their pockets that they wished to spend.
faye 17 years ago
fitzwell shoes from zappos.com are incredibly comfortable and go up to widths of EE, perfect for any pregnant woman. They are also incredibly cute and stylish. with the addition of a comfort line.