Ah yes. The insults of the Croc-wearing, on-purpose ugly to those who want to show the world they care enough to make an effort.
These styleophobes are the ones who show up at your elegant party in torn jeans, a t-shirt and tennis shoes because they assume everyone will love them for their inner beauty.
There is a big difference between being stylish and looking “too perfectly turned out”, in my opinion. The *few* people I know who I consider to consistantly be in the “perfectly turned out” group really are self-absorbed and vapid – I’m talking about people who work very hard to maintain a show-offy, label-bedecked, air-brushed sort of appearance. They spend countless hours and dollars to obtain the perfect hair, nails, tan, designer clothes, ‘it’ bags, etc., for what…? And now I’m expected to feel sorry for them? These are the LAST people on the planet I have any sympathy for, sheesh!
Personally, I find the most stylish people are not the ones who strive for a gleaming facade of perfection. They may have fantastic shoes, but in the end, they look like themselves, not a magazine ad.
I’m no where near airbrushed and always perfectly turned out but for the most part I TRY. And I do think think about what I wear and new ways to wear my clothes. And even I, and I’m in a creative industry, get that attitude from people. Like I am not about to do my work and other things, just because I also think about clothes.
“Cool” is by definition, effortless. It’s pathetic when people try too hard. No one wants to be around a high maintenance snooty woman anyway. This applies to every aspect of “chic” e.g. you want to look flawless, not like you’re wearing makeup.
I really hate it when ugly women w/ low self-esteem rag on people that actually try. “Why should I care what length my dress is?” Because when you pay attention to little things like wearing a flattering shape or even the right size, it makes a world of difference. It’s like they wear their inability to dress/accessorize as a badge of honour.
In response to the never ending jibes of a co-worker,(a real mess from top to bottom), who, among other snide comments directed at my appearance, (I am well-groomed and try to be stlyish but age appropriate), constantly stated that she “coudln’t be bothered” to do her nails, stlye her hair, etc. whenever I was near I one day turned to her and said ” You didn’t have to state the fact, it’s quite obvious to all.
Needless to say she now keeps her remarks to herself.
“And certainly, if someone at home is going hungry and unloved because a woman is stalking handbags, that’s a problem.”
Is it? Oh dear.
I do think if a woman is obsessed with her appearance to the exclusion of all else, then that does demonstrate a problem with her self-esteem, and perhaps society. Don’t worry Ninjarina, I’m neither fat nor ugly, nor do I wear burlap and/or sandals, so I am allowed to criticise, no? But consider, perhaps sometimes a women says she does not care, because she genuinely does not care, not because she is trying to insult those of us who do.
Making rude personal comments about other people’s appearance to their face (or within hearing) is certainly not stylish, whether you are wearing burlap couture or not.
Hola to the Layla! La BellaDonna suspects that, not only does La BellaDonna agree with the Layla, but the Lilly Munster does, too. It seems as if the Lilly’s co-worker was constantly making the jibes at the Lilly for making an effort (what a concept! To look professional and put-together at the office, on the job!); and when the Lilly had Had Enough of the passive-aggressive criticisms, she agreed with her co-worker. At least the agreement, it was enough to mute the barrage.
La BellaDonna, she has always gone her own route, and it is usually a route with the skirts and the tights and even the hats. She does not have the need to make fun of the people who choose another route, and is happy to leave them in peace, if they leave her in peace. She does not quite understand, though, the need some people have to mock those who choose not to abide by the lowest common denominator.
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class factotum 17 years ago
Ah yes. The insults of the Croc-wearing, on-purpose ugly to those who want to show the world they care enough to make an effort.
These styleophobes are the ones who show up at your elegant party in torn jeans, a t-shirt and tennis shoes because they assume everyone will love them for their inner beauty.
Sometimes inner beauty just doesn’t cut it.
LaVida2 17 years ago
LOVED The Shoe Project website!!!!!!!!!
Annie 17 years ago
Who wears burlap?
There is a big difference between being stylish and looking “too perfectly turned out”, in my opinion. The *few* people I know who I consider to consistantly be in the “perfectly turned out” group really are self-absorbed and vapid – I’m talking about people who work very hard to maintain a show-offy, label-bedecked, air-brushed sort of appearance. They spend countless hours and dollars to obtain the perfect hair, nails, tan, designer clothes, ‘it’ bags, etc., for what…? And now I’m expected to feel sorry for them? These are the LAST people on the planet I have any sympathy for, sheesh!
Personally, I find the most stylish people are not the ones who strive for a gleaming facade of perfection. They may have fantastic shoes, but in the end, they look like themselves, not a magazine ad.
Poochie 17 years ago
I’m no where near airbrushed and always perfectly turned out but for the most part I TRY. And I do think think about what I wear and new ways to wear my clothes. And even I, and I’m in a creative industry, get that attitude from people. Like I am not about to do my work and other things, just because I also think about clothes.
Maybe other people don’t multi-task that well.
Luv
Poochie
http://shoedaydreams.blogspot.com/
Ninjarina 17 years ago
“Cool” is by definition, effortless. It’s pathetic when people try too hard. No one wants to be around a high maintenance snooty woman anyway. This applies to every aspect of “chic” e.g. you want to look flawless, not like you’re wearing makeup.
I really hate it when ugly women w/ low self-esteem rag on people that actually try. “Why should I care what length my dress is?” Because when you pay attention to little things like wearing a flattering shape or even the right size, it makes a world of difference. It’s like they wear their inability to dress/accessorize as a badge of honour.
Lilly Munster 17 years ago
In response to the never ending jibes of a co-worker,(a real mess from top to bottom), who, among other snide comments directed at my appearance, (I am well-groomed and try to be stlyish but age appropriate), constantly stated that she “coudln’t be bothered” to do her nails, stlye her hair, etc. whenever I was near I one day turned to her and said ” You didn’t have to state the fact, it’s quite obvious to all.
Needless to say she now keeps her remarks to herself.
tinuvielberen 17 years ago
God forbid a woman should expend time, care and money on herself rather than Other People.
/sarcasm
Layla 17 years ago
“And certainly, if someone at home is going hungry and unloved because a woman is stalking handbags, that’s a problem.”
Is it? Oh dear.
I do think if a woman is obsessed with her appearance to the exclusion of all else, then that does demonstrate a problem with her self-esteem, and perhaps society. Don’t worry Ninjarina, I’m neither fat nor ugly, nor do I wear burlap and/or sandals, so I am allowed to criticise, no? But consider, perhaps sometimes a women says she does not care, because she genuinely does not care, not because she is trying to insult those of us who do.
Making rude personal comments about other people’s appearance to their face (or within hearing) is certainly not stylish, whether you are wearing burlap couture or not.
La BellaDonna 17 years ago
Hola to the Layla! La BellaDonna suspects that, not only does La BellaDonna agree with the Layla, but the Lilly Munster does, too. It seems as if the Lilly’s co-worker was constantly making the jibes at the Lilly for making an effort (what a concept! To look professional and put-together at the office, on the job!); and when the Lilly had Had Enough of the passive-aggressive criticisms, she agreed with her co-worker. At least the agreement, it was enough to mute the barrage.
La BellaDonna, she has always gone her own route, and it is usually a route with the skirts and the tights and even the hats. She does not have the need to make fun of the people who choose another route, and is happy to leave them in peace, if they leave her in peace. She does not quite understand, though, the need some people have to mock those who choose not to abide by the lowest common denominator.